Have you ever had a longing to be with someone you love? Your significant other, your family, or friends? I think it’s safe to say that we’ve all been there a time or two (or 3 thousand). I had an experience recently that really got me thinking about a new spin (to me at least) on the present. I was dancing with my girlfriend at my place and was having an amazing time. I started to imagine that it was many years later and I was remembering this moment from that point in time. It brought such a profound feeling of presence and gratitude to this moment that I started to cry [tears of joy]. I felt so lucky to be experiencing that moment in such a profound way.

I told her what I was thinking and we had a great conversation about it. Here’s a brief summary of what we came up with:

Deepen into the moment by projecting yourself into the future and remembering back to this moment. Which can help one experience the now more fully and taste the longing for the moment in that very moment.

I know this is a very simple exercise and it is ultimately just adding thought to an experience of the moment… but it has been powerful for me. I felt so alive, so present. I can’t really even express what I felt. We’ve done it a few times since then and it has had similar affects each time. Give it a try!

This concept also sparked another thought in me. Have you ever been ill or in a bad mood or something? Have you ever wished that you could be anywhere but where you are one time or another, feeling healthy, happy, and peaceful? Again, I think that we’ve all felt this before as well. It’s easy to want to feel better when we are sick or tired, etc.. But how often do we remember those wishes when we are actually back to “normal”?  I was talking to a friend recently and we started talking about this concept. It instantly gave me a tremendous amount of gratitude for that moment, a moment where I was with great friends, feeling healthy, and having a good time. I try to practice this often these days. I imagine that I could be ill, or in traffic, or worse… It really helps me to be grateful for the stuff I take for granted on a daily basis. What more could I ask for? I am healthy, happy, and alive!!!!

For me, it really boils down to living in this present moment. It’s all I have so I might as well enjoy it no matter where I am or what I’m doing (even when I’m crawling along the 10 in bumper to bumper). It’s funny what a couple of tweaks in perspective can do.

What do you think?


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